My second marriage certainly qualified as a learning experience. I learned many, many things in that brief time but the lesson I find the most important is this—even the darkest storm cloud truly does have a silver lining. I can honestly say he changed who I am at the very core, for the better I believe. My whole life I was very left brained like my father; a math whiz, very compulsive and rigid. I wanted desperately to be more like my right brained mom; she is creative, artistic and flexible. No amount of art classes, practice, or encouragement from mom could change the reality that I lacked artistic talent. Then Prince Charming came along—boxing my ears, bashing my heed into walls and floors, and often choking me until I lost consciousness. I thought he’d end my life but thanks to the amazing powers of the human brain he gave me a new life—the life of an artist. Because most of the damage was sustained on the left side of my brain, the right began to compensate and grew stronger. I may struggle with basic math now but I’m enjoying being a right brained person. Few folks get to experience being both left and right brained in one lifetime. I consider that my abusive jerk of a husband gave me a very unique wedding gift, the gift or artistic abilities. He taught me a serious lesson in seeing the positive in any situation!